Give up defining yourself - to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.
So in the present time,
we can’t escape from the world anymore;
we can’t escape from the mind.
We need to enter surrender while we are in the world.
That seems to be the path that is effective in the world that we live in now.
Wisdom arises through the simple act of giving someone or something your full attention. Attention is primordial intelligence, consciousness itself. It joins the perceiver and the perceived in a unifying field of awareness. It is the healer of separation
Viewpoints, opinions, and mental positions are all thoughts – the thought says “this is how it is”, it is some kind of judgment or perspective on things. To be identified with a mental position is to derive your sense of self from that mental position. It’s a substitute identity, form identity, ego – a substitute for your true identity which is formless and has nothing to do with any thought – but is consciousness itself.
Even a stone, and more easily a flower or a bird,
could show you the way back to God, to the Source,
When you look at it or hold it; let it be
without imposing a word of mental label on it,
a sense of awe, of wonder, arises within you.
Its essence silently communicates itself
to you and reflects your own essence back to you.
So the single most vital step on your journey is this:
learn to disidentify from your mind.
Every time you create a gap in the stream of mind,
the light of your consciousness grows stronger.
One day you may catch yourself smiling at the voice in your head,
as you would smile at the antics of a child.
This means that you no longer take the content of your mind
all that seriously, as your sense of self does not depend on it.
Wherever you are, be there totally.
If you find your here and now intolerable
and it makes you unhappy,
you have three options:
remove yourself from the situation,
or accept it totally.